This day’s entry should be the longest, the most intricate, the most telling of everything we’ve been through to this point, but it might
serve us better as the simplest … the most raw.
A day in the emergency room after coughing up a strange
mucus plug, then some hunks of bloody lung junk for a while (we could go with “hemoptysis”
but we’re doing simple and raw).
At the ER via a rather urgent trip with Diane driving us
there in my big boy honkin’ truck (not designed for a driver of her small stature,
but she wrenches it around just fine).
At the ER, the bleeding stopped and the shortness of breath
eased up.
Then, after the CT scan and x-ray:
A lesion is now “eroding” an area on my windpipe.
There is more cancer in my liver and lungs.
At the end, we spoke with a gaggle of huddling Docs on the
way forward:
Looks like chemo is no longer an effective treatment.
Palliative care from here on out. And, my
sledgehammer moment, when I pressed my oncologist on a “rough” best estimate of
me and my cancer’s timeline.
“Months.”
I will go to radiation oncology next week to see if XRT
(x-ray therapy) can help my airway.
Finally, as we began on Day 001 at the outset of this
narrative:
POW.
A simple, raw and fitting place to move on, as I would like
this to see the light of book publication while the light inside these hands
still shines.
I can think of no greater end than a note from my daughter,
who met us at the ER today.
We’ll leave this as we’ve gone, with her brave and loving
words:
Dear Dad:
Hard day today, and you handled it well.
I am completely distraught at the thought of losing you. I
love sitting next to you, talking to you, I love being your daughter. You've
given me so many gifts as my Dad. You have lived a tremendously interesting,
inspired, badass life.
You have some time left. What I want for you now is for you
to do the things you want to do, go on adventures, sit and be still, have
conversations, eat your favorite foods.
DO WHAT YOU WANT. THIS
IS YOUR TIME.
I love you so much. Let me be a part of this time you
have. I have so many happy memories with
you, let's make a few more.
I love you, Erin